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You Can Create Effective Affirmations

Firstly, what is an affirmation?

An affirmation is a positive statement that you repeat to yourself, over and over again. Saying it out loud is best.

If you want to get the best results from your affirmations then you need to write them correctly. The words that you say to yourself are very powerful and if you phrase them incorrectly then your subconscious mind can end up working against you rather than for you. Something that makes sense to you may not make sense to your subconscious.

In this article, we will provide you with the most effective techniques for writing powerful affirmations. It will take more time and effort to do this, but you need to take the longer-term view here. Better to spend a bit more time getting it right than not seeing the results that you want down the road.

You have already achieved what you want

When you write your affirmations, you need to do so in the present tense. This means that the statements will read as if you have already achieved what you desire. So, if you want to be more confident don’t write “I want to be more confident”. Instead write “I am supremely confident”.

If you do not write your affirmations with this kind of certainty then you are just compiling a wish list. Your subconscious will not respond as you want it to when presented with a wish list. You need to convince your subconscious that you mean business.

By using affirmations that state you have already got what you want you do not give your subconscious reasons to challenge this. It is a done deal. You are supremely confident. The more that your subconscious hears this, the more it will take it on board and help you.

Make your Affirmations Personal

There are two things to consider here. Your affirmations need to address specific weaknesses and flaws in your character that you have. This is personal to you and will not be the same as other people. The second thing is that when you write your affirmations you need to use the first person “I”.

Never use “we” in an affirmation. This implies that other people are necessary for you to achieve the change that you desire. It is imperative that you do not write vague affirmations. Everything needs to be crystal clear so that your subconscious mind can absorb your affirmations easily.

Using “I am” is recommended here. You can also use “I will” and “I have” if you want to. Here are some examples:

  • “I am supremely confident”
  • “I am able to do anything”
  • “I am wealthy”
  • “I am very healthy”
  • “I am beautiful”

Do you see how powerful these are? They are direct and to the point as well. There is nothing vague here.

Include Powerful Emotions

A very effective way to supercharge the power of your affirmations is to add emotion to them. Emotions have a very powerful effect on our lives so it makes sense to add these into your affirmations to make them stronger.

When you are writing each of your affirmations take the time out to imagine how you will feel when you have achieved it. So, if you want to be supremely confident think about the feelings you will experience when you have this. Use a strong feeling in your affirmation statement.

Keep it Short and Simple

Try to keep your affirmations as short as possible so you can remember them easily, this is important. Don’t leave out any important details (such as strong emotion) but look at a long affirmation and see how you can shorten it without losing any of its impact.

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How To Confidently Express Your Feelings At Work

Mixing feelings with work?

Never!

Society usually tells us to keep our work problems and home problems totally separate, which ends up making a lot of people feel like they can’t bring their feelings with them to work situations. 

Here’s the reality: Feelings are inevitable at work.

Just like any situation in life, you’re going to experience feelings and emotions in your work environment.

You can’t always act on these, but you can embrace them and know when and how you can express them. Start with these three strategies! 

Go Directly to the Source

If you need to have a difficult or uncomfortable conversation with somebody, your best bet is to cut to the chase. Go directly to the source and ask to have a mature discussion.

Office politics tend to confuse and exacerbate the situation, and it’s much better to involve yourself directly with someone rather than engage in gossip beforehand.

Because you’re in an office environment, you can always set up a meeting with your coworker or boss to hash things out. Otherwise, if you prefer a more casual setting, ask to get coffee or go for a walk outside of work. 

Be Calm and Know Your Stance

Work environments can be stressful, but don’t let that disrupt your calm disposition.

Going into a discussion with a sense of calm is really important. You may be taking a bold stance, and that’s perfectly fine.

But you should make sure you stay calm about it and don’t get heated. Be confident that you know what you’re doing, and don’t let that change as the conversation begins to take form. 

Remember Your “Why”

At the end of the day, you and all of your coworkers are there for the same reason. You’re not trying to disrupt the structure or success of the company, nor are you trying to stir up unnecessary drama.

You all have a “why” or a reason to be there. Your job is important to you, so try to remember this throughout your conversation.

You’re trying to work through this and talk it out because you want to improve things, not make anything worse. Don’t forget that! 

We’ve covered three big strategies for expressing your feelings at work, but you’re not limited to these three.

Every situation is different, so take some time to think about yours and create your strategy accordingly.

Good luck! 

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7 Things People Who Believe in Themselves Do Differently

What is about people who believe in themselves? We see it in the way they carry themselves, in the way they converse with others, and in the things they accomplish. Self-belief in action is an amazing thing to see, and something everyone should aspire to.

At the same time, we very quickly become intimidated by this kind of change. It seems like it would be hard to change how you think and feel about yourself. We tend to stall out before we begin because it seems like only ‘special’ people are going to get ‘there.’ 

But is that true? A closer examination shows us otherwise. In fact, you’ll find people who believe in themselves have a lot of traits in common. Let’s look at some of those now.

They Know Where to Find Happiness

…and it’s not where you’ve been looking. People with self-belief know true happiness is something that comes from inside, not from how many toys you have or how many digits you have in your checking account.

They’re Really Not Interested in What Everyone Else is Doing

With no judgment and even less interest in comparing themselves to others, people who believe in themselves tend to focus more on what they’re doing. The competition simply doesn’t matter.

They Pick their Battles

When you lack self-belief, you tend to say ‘yes’ to everything. The problem? If you don’t value your time, no one else will either. Learning which things to say ‘yes’ to and more importantly, how to say ‘no,’ shows the world around them their time is worth fighting for.

They Know When to Speak Confidently

There’s no waffling or room for wishy-washy statements in the world of self-belief. Your ‘yes’ means ‘yes.’ You use a phrase like, “I know…” or “I can…” without second-guessing or wondering if they really can follow through with what they’re saying.

They Look for the Challenge

There’s nothing like a little healthy competition with yourself. Self-belief means you know the value of pushing to get to the next level. To a person with this kind of self-belief, life becomes almost like a game to move up by facing a challenge straight-on.

They Know How to Fail

The person with self-belief isn’t afraid to try, which sometimes means not accomplishing what they set out to do. When that happens, they take the lesson learned without making excuses or worrying about how it looks. 

They Don’t Need the Spotlight

When you believe in yourself, you don’t need accolades and are quick to point out the accomplishments of others. Most people with strong self-belief are modest. They know their value; they don’t need someone else to underscore it for them.

The amazing thing about all of these traits is just how easy they are to develop in yourself. By taking the time to build habits of self-belief, you’ll be amazed at how quickly you become one of those fantastic people who really believe in themselves. 

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