Personal Growth Relationships Self Esteem/Self Confidence

Getting Angry Can Cost You Your Job

Let’s face it. People are going to get under your skin at work. In most cases, you are not in charge of picking the people who you work with.

That means you will find plenty of incompatible people in the workplace. But blowing a gasket when someone makes you reach your boiling point could cost you your job.

You need to find ways to diffuse your anger. You will not only be the bigger person in doing so; you may even save your job. It will show your company that you can handle pressure as well, which is an important aspect of business.

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Your parents and teachers have all told you to count to ten whenever you are angry. This is still good advice.

Also, try to walk away from the person or people who are irritating you. You have a greater chance of not saying something you will later regret.

When you are trying to compose yourself, try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes.

Perhaps there is something you did that is making them react in a hostile manner.

Playback in your head, any interactions you had with that person and see if you did something to upset them.

Keep in mind that you don’t have to cave into people. If they are in the wrong, you’ll want to put yourself in a position of strength, but do it only when you are no longer angry.

Businesses appreciate employees who can defuse altercations.

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As a last resort, you may need to approach your manager regarding the behaviors of some of your coworkers. If so, present both sides of the situation as best you can. Your manager will see that you are not trying to manipulate him or her into only seeing your side of the story.

Managers should also keep anger in check. While it’s common for managers to lay into their employees, this behavior can backfire on them.

Good managers need to handle situations in a firm but fair manner, without losing control of their emotions. Otherwise, employees may seek alternative employment.

Upper management may start to notice managers who are overly aggressive with their employees and take disciplinary actions.

Find ways to blow off steam. People spend many hours each week working together. There are bound to be heated situations.

Keeping your composure, while not always easy, is going to go a long way in helping you from losing your job.

Anxiety/Stress Chaos / Upheaval Mindset/Strenghts Self Care

6 Ways to Protect Your Mental Health During a Sudden Upheaval

You thought you were doing ok. You likely were. You’d faced several challenges already, and came out on top. 
Then it happened—a sudden upheaval. In an instant, your entire world changed, and you were called upon to react to a situation which sapped your energy, drained your resources, and left you feeling as though mentally, you’d just taken a battering.

It can be difficult to bounce back from such a tough scenario. Some work may be needed in order to protect your mental health during the upheaval.

Let’s look at some ways to accomplish this.

Be Unsettled

When you’re caught in the chaos, it’s normal to feel like you don’t know which end is up. You can’t possibly know all the answers, or the next best step when you’re still coping with the realization things have gone horribly wrong. You need to give yourself a break. 


Get in the Moment

What’s going on right now? When upheaval strikes, it’s normal to start worrying about a lot of long-term ramifications. Yet, worry can put you into an anxiety loop very quickly. To avoid this, it is helpful to deal with what is immediately in front of you first. Try mindfulness or meditation to put yourself back in the now.


Slow Down

Speaking of doing what’s in front of you, sometimes it can feel very overwhelming to push yourself back into motion. Try taking things in short bursts instead. Do the next thing in front of you for five minutes. Then take a breath, collect yourself, and do it again. Soon you’ll regain your momentum.


Accept Your Emotions

We can be hard on ourselves when it comes to what we ‘should’ be feeling. Here’s where it’s essential to feel exactly what you’re feeling right now. There is no right or wrong here. 


Get Support

Don’t go it alone. Isolation leads to anxiety and depression. Reach out to your friends and family. Talk to them about how you feel. They are your tribe. They’re there for you. Allow them to help.


Give Yourself Time

Not everything goes according to a specific timeline. You’ll drive yourself crazy if you think there’s a specific time you need to be done grieving or being angry about something. Truly, you need to do you. Take the time you need to feel all right. 
The good news? You can and will be ok so long as you stay the course and do the work to protect yourself. But even if you find you can’t, that doesn’t mean all is lost. Sometimes we all need a little help to sort this kind of thing through. It’s ok to reach out to a friend or even a counselor to help get yourself back on track.

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