Author: Ally

The Art Of Patience

The Dictionary defines patience as, “the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset. “

Patience is a skill that many of us could learn how to master better. We may get short with our kids, have some road rage, or struggle with other issues that make us stamp our feet or get frustrated over the little things. Learning the art of patience can facilitate more success, healthier relationships with others and yourself, improve wellbeing and much more.

What is Patience?

“One minute of patience, ten years of peace” – Greek Proverb

First, we need to take a closer look at patience and what it means. Patience is a state that occurs between an experience that you have and your reaction. Whether you want to be patient with yourself, with those around you, or with life, patience always seems to be how you deal with obstacles or delays in life.

Those with patience will find that they can let go of some of the things that occur to them that are outside their control. This can be hard for some people to do. But when you are successful, it can help you to live a happier life because you have less frustration, anxiety, and stress.

What are the Benefits of Patience?

Several benefits come with having more patience during our lives according to Medium.com. Some of these benefits include:

You avoid health issues: Having patience can put us at a lower risk of heart conditions, anxiety, and depression. The reason for this is that we feel less stressed when we are more patient.
You make better decisions: You won’t rush into something because you are worried about it taking too long. You can slow down and make a smart decision.
It is easier to be happy: Patience allows us to feel happier. When we have less stress and anxiety, we can feel more tranquil and better overall.
You find life is easier: Your journey in life is easier if you can reduce the stress and just be patient in life.

Everyone can work on their patience, bringing in more and helping them feel less stressed and happier. Finding the right tips to add to your life to have more patience is the key to making that happen.

How to Become More Patient

Now it is time to look at some of the steps that you need to take to be more patient in your daily life. Some of the best steps to help with this include:

Be mindful of your thoughts: While a situation can make you frustrated, you get to determine how you react to it. You can secure your thought before it becomes an action and turn it into something more peaceful too.
Figure out what makes you impatient: You need to learn more about your triggers and what makes you impatient overall. When you learn what these triggers are, you will be able to avoid them or find methods better deal with those things.
Show gratitude: When you show more gratitude in your daily life, you will be happier and won’t have impatience take over your life any longer.
Set short-term goals: Setting goals and celebrating your achievements will give you something amazing to look forward to and can help out.
Make yourself wait: When you make yourself wait and think through something, you will find that it is easier for you to learn patience too. This can be hard but is still very good for helping you slow down.

Being patient is a skill that takes time. While it would be nice to wake up one day and have a ton of patience, this is not always possible. By following some of the tips above, you can add more patience to your life, along with more happiness.

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What are Positive Affirmations?

Post author By Ally
Post date November 8, 2022
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Positive affirmations are undoubtedly common on social media, in posters, and on greeting cards. They’re all over Facebook and Instagram, and they can seem a little cheesy sometimes. But did you know that positive affirmations can actually be powerful tools for change?

What are Affirmations? And How do They Work?

Affirmations are, to put it simply, anything you think or say. They represent for a considerable proportion of the constant mental chatter that everyone has going on in their head most of the time. Even though we may not be consciously aware of them , we all use affirmations. This gives permission to our default, negative beliefs to control our daily activities and run our lives.

Take a moment to consider the messages you frequently tell yourself. Do you have kind, positive, encouraging self-talk, or does your Inner Critic dominate with harsh words of criticism? Many of your messages were probably planted while you were still a child. Did you receive support and encouragement to put forth your best effort, or did you receive criticism for being incompetent or unmotivated? You are still being influenced by those messages.

Your thoughts and beliefs affect your reality, whether you have a positive or negative script going through your mind. Self-doubt is fueled by negative beliefs, and they prevent you from attempting to reach your full potential. If you believe you’re no good at giving presentations, you’re not going to feel confident enough to give it your all.

Change up Your Self-Talk

The good news is that by making the decision to use affirmations that are positive, you may alter the way you talk to yourself and rewire your brain to adopt a positive outlook.

The process is pretty straightforward if you stick to some basic rules:

Always use the present tense. Your brain reacts in the moment, so make that moment as positive as you can.
Keep it positive and simple. It is considerably more useful to use brief, positive, empowering sentences like “I am calm” than to tell yourself, “I mustn’t become irritated.”
Use repetition. Affirmations will strengthen those neural connections in the brain if you repeat them frequently and persistently. Positive thought and belief patterns will start to become more automatic for you. Aim to say your chosen affirmations aloud for at least five minutes three times each day.

Choose to Change your Life

The experiences you have in life are entirely up to you. Whatever you tell yourself affirms that you want to have more of it in your life. So if you’re angry or resentful, you’re setting yourself up for more of that in your life. Things will go exactly as you expect them to if you are optimistic and self-assured and believe that everything will work out fine.

You can choose to feel good and positive about your life. Using conscious affirmations is a great way to start making those positive changes today.

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5 Ways To Endure Difficult Times

Post author By Ally
Post date October 27, 2022
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No one’s life is easy–no one! It’s true that some people seem to have it easier than others. Yet, you can bet they’re suffering from one thing or another.

That’s why we should all try to refrain from imposing our personal views or jumping to conclusions. Instead, why not try to be more civil towards one another and show some empathy?

We could all use a bit more positivity in our day, don’t you think? Even the simple act of smiling as you pass someone by can brighten up their day. That’s how closely we’re all connected!

While we’re at it, we should mention that smiling is one of the best ways to endure difficult times. So, if you’re interested in finding out more ways to help you get through the tough times in your life, you’ve come to the right place!

Let’s get started.

Be Patient

Our brains are hardwired to protect against all foreign and domestic threats. So, they tend to stretch out adverse events in our lives to make you think it’s been happening for a long time.

Yet, the worst part is that you start believing that the bad times will never go on forever. You feel like there’s no end in sight, and you’re doomed to lead a tragic life.

Don’t believe it.

One of the constants in life is change. So, whatever you’re going through—good or bad—will end eventually.

There will be situations that will call on you to act and help bring the problem to an end. With others, on the other hand, you simply need to wait out the storm and have faith in yourself.

Embrace Your Weaknesses

Each of us has our own individualized set of strengths and weaknesses, attributes and flaws. The problem is that when things get tough, we only focus on how weak and helpless we feel.

We lose sight of our strengths and trick ourselves into highlighting our flaws. This makes us feel like losers incapable of rising above any challenging situations.

The key to avoiding this pit of self-doubt is to never compare yourself with anyone else. Then, remind yourself of all your strengths.

You can even make a list of all the good things you’re good at and hang it up. Make sure you place it somewhere you pass by frequently. It’s a great trick that will help shift your perception from feeling weak and vulnerable to feeling empowered and confident.

Be Proud of How Far You’ve Come

You can’t have made it this far in life without having been in one or two bad situations before. So, whenever you need a bit of a boost during tough times, just remind yourself of similar situations you’ve endured in the past.

You probably either overcame the situation or didn’t. Either way, you came out having learned something and gained life experience.

It’s a great confidence booster to remember how well you managed to navigate difficult times and handle challenges with ease. It’ll also help shift your attitude from a sense of helplessness to feeling motivated to take action and do what needs to get done.

Practice Gratitude

We started the article by saying that everyone goes through hard times in their life. That’s a given. But the difference between those who land on their feet and those who live a life of gloom is gratitude.

No matter how difficult things might be right now, there will always be a dozen other things going well in your life.

Is your relationship on the rocks? Be happy that you have a steady job, have a roof over your head, and can put food on the table.

Are you having problems at work? Give thanks for the health, loved ones, and friends you have.

Then, there are all the little things we tend to take for granted, like beautiful sunsets, relaxing walks in the park, and delicious coffee. Change your perspective, and you’ll realize that things aren’t really that bad after all.

Learn from Your Experiences

Life coaches, psychologists, and therapists all agree that there’s no failure when it comes to personal development. There’s only your interpretation of the events and how you react to them.

Sounds simple enough, right? Yes! But as soon as you’re faced with a problem, all that wisdom flies out of the window.

This comes from years of being programmed that failure is a big flashing bulb telling us we’re not doing something right, causing us to steer off course. But that couldn’t be farther from the truth. In fact, everything we now do so well came from a trial-and-error process, like walking, typing, and driving.

What you should do is try to figure out why this is happening. Then, use this experience to learn more about likes and dislikes, weaknesses and strengths. Eventually, you’ll be able to turn things around.

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