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Personal Growth

Not Finishing What You Started Can Hurt You

Do you pass the hallway of forgotten projects when you enter your house? Or maybe all the projects you leave unfinished are stuffed into a closet where none of your guests can judge you over them. 

The point is, you tend to leave a lot of the things you start unfinished, and whether you realize it or not, this habit could be hurting you in several ways.  

It May Make You Anxious

If you find yourself constantly feeling anxious, it could be because of all the projects you are constantly leaving unfinished. Even if you don’t currently feel any anxiety, this doesn’t mean you won’t eventually feel anxious feelings as a result of your unfinished projects. 

Not only that, but when feelings of anxiety go unresolved, they could lead to more serious issues such as depression. Thus, it’s better to do whatever possible to avoid causing yourself to feel anxiety.

You Will Have Issues With Frustration

Whether you realize it or not, leaving projects unfinished is a deep source of frustration in your life. This frustration may not just be affecting your personal life.

It could also be affecting your professional life, causing you to lash out at coworkers and maybe even your boss. If this sounds like you, it means your unfinished projects could actually be what is holding you back in your career. 

You Won’t Move Forward

Finishing what you start is an important part of creating change within your life. If you aren’t finishing the things you are starting, you aren’t changing and you remain stagnant if you are not continually changing yourself.

Without change, you can’t move forward.

You will set aside any goals or dreams you have for yourself, and you may never complete them. It could also mean that you won’t feel a feeling of accomplishment, which is another crucial aspect of helping propel yourself forward in life. 

Conclusion

Although you may not think that not finishing what you’ve started is hurting you, the truth is, it probably is. When you leave a project unfinished, it can cause anxiety and feelings of frustration to develop and fester.

Beyond just that, when you aren’t finishing something, you are remaining stagnant in your life and denying yourself the growth and development you deserve. It is time to stop setting tasks aside and start completing the things you start today!

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Mindset/Strenghts Personal Growth

6 Steps to Improving Your Life Through Positive Self-Talk

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Negative self-talk has far-reaching consequences in your life.

We unknowingly become our own worst enemies, robbing ourselves of self-confidence and peace of mind. If left unchecked, our lack of positivity can begin to affect our health, leaving us worried and stressed, unable to relax.

Is it fixable?

This is actually less difficult than you think. It all begins with positive self-talk and the implementation of these six practical steps.

Begin by catching yourself in the act. These first three steps will put a stop to negative self-talk before it can take root:

#1 Make a note of it.

Keeping a journal is an excellent way to organise your thoughts. Before going to bed, try writing down your impressions of the day. This allows you to let go of feelings that might otherwise fester while you’re trying to sleep.

It is always a great way to develop an attitude of gratitude as you gain awareness of things you can be grateful for each day. remember what you focus on expands, so focus on the goodness in your life and you’ll create more of it.

Reading those entries again later will give you a sense of where you are. It’s possible you’ve been more negative lately than you realised.

#2 Simply say “No.”

Your job is to stop negative statements from forming in your head when you catch them. When you notice your self-talk changing to something less than positive, you must stop it immediately. If necessary, say the word “Stop” aloud.

#3 Return with a Snap Back

For years, psychologists have recommended this therapy to stop negative thoughts. You simply wrap a rubber band around your wrist (but not too tightly).

When you have a negative thought, simply snap the rubber band. You’ll eventually find yourself stopping those thoughts automatically in order to avoid the ‘punishment.’

Next, try these three steps to put positive self-talk into practise. Remember knowledge without action is just information, so now we need to put what you have learnt into action

#4 Reduce the volume.

What word(s) in the negative thought can you change to soften it? Perhaps you meant’mistaken‘ instead of’stupid.

Instead of’slow,’ consider ‘thoughtful.’

By paying attention to your words, you will naturally begin to shift your self-talk to a more positive tone.

# 5 Change sides

Make it a game. Every time you hear yourself saying something in your head, ask yourself if you can rephrase it into something positive. Decide how many of these thoughts you can alter.

As you begin to practise this, it will become easier and you actually may just even enjoy it!

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# 6 Make is a habit to question everything

Instead of listening to negative assumptions, ask questions about them.

That’s impossible,” for example, can be transformed into “How can I make that possible?”

Questions seek solutions, whereas statements are already conclusive.

You’ll discover that life looks different if you track what you do and act with intention to change the situation. You’re more at ease and can even embrace optimism.

You begin to like yourself a little more. It is here that you begin to realise the potential you have always possessed.

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Anxiety/Stress Personal Growth

How Avoidance Actually Creates More Stress

When you have an especially difficult or stressful task on your plate, it can be very tempting to avoid completing said task. Or if you don’t like to think about a subject because of an experience, it can seem easier to just not think about that topic. Both of these situations are known as avoidance, and though it may be tempting to engage in this behavior, it causes more stress than it relieves. 

You Won’t Stop Thinking About It

If you’ve ever experienced trauma, it can be tempting to avoid all thoughts of things that may remind you of the trauma you experienced. Although this may be less painful in the short run, the truth is, long term, this will stress you out more because the thoughts of your trauma will always return until you genuinely learn to deal with them rather than avoid them. The same holds for certain physical tasks. You may put them off because you don’t want to think about them, but this will only stress you out more because you will have to keep thinking about the task instead of simply completing it now.

You’ll Run Out Of Time

When you put off a task, you may momentarily relieve your stress by telling yourself you will complete the task later. But this is worse than doing the job now because later you will experience more pressure as you are faced with a fast-approaching deadline. This is especially true if you haven’t left yourself enough time to complete the task and have to rush at the last minute. 

Avoidance Creates Conflict

Maybe a coworker is waiting for you to complete your work so they can get started on theirs. And if you didn’t leave yourself enough time before the deadline, you may cause them to be late on meeting their deadline as well. This can cause a conflict between you as your coworker may be upset that you made them late. And when you experience conflict in your relationships, this only adds to your overall stress level rather than lowering it.

Although it can be extremely tempting to avoid certain tasks or put them off, this is a flawed approach as it will only cause you more stress in the long run. This is because avoidance doesn’t solve any problems. Instead, it just creates conflict, which leads to increased stress in the future.