(Prefer a video version of this blog… skip to the bottom of the page)
Worry gets in to all the crevices of our lives. We worry about our jobs, our kids, our relationships, money, and a million other things every single day. It’s no wonder we feel like we’re not getting things done the way we’d like.
Thankfully, it doesn’t have to be this way. To change your life and stop worrying, ask yourself these quick questions:
What Are You Really Worried About?
Many times, worry is a mask for something else entirely. A hard look and some pointed questions might be necessary to get to the heart of the matter. On the other hand, once you have a clear understanding of what the real issue is, it’s easier to address the problem and stamp out the worry completely.
Is This Even Possible?
Worry inflates everything to monster proportions. If your worry seems slightly ridiculous, it probably is. Take a step back and ask yourself just how likely this outcome is. Worry can’t stand up under this kind of scrutiny.
Is This Something I can Control?
We have become so good at worrying about the things we can’t change. Seriously, what difference does it make if it snows tomorrow? Nothing we do can keep the flakes from falling. Accept sometimes you’re just going to have to go with the flow and adapt to the circumstances.
Does this Affect Me Today?
Worries about the future can really derail your life today. If you’re worried about something far off, it’s time to take a step back. Ask yourself a fundamental follow-up question if you’re concerned about the future: “Is there something I can do today that will prevent this outcome tomorrow?” If so, now you have a plan of action. Get to it!
Am I Spending Too Much Time?
Obsessive worry doesn’t help anyone. If you find yourself circling back to the same concern over and over, you might need help breaking out of this cycle. Consider talking to someone, such as a good friend or even a counselor or trained professional, to help you break out of this vicious cycle.
Why Do I Care What Others Think?
If you’re worried about the opinions of others, why? If you’re concerned about impressing your boss, there are better ways to do this than worrying. More often than not, though, you’re going to find most people’s opinions really don’t matter. Don’t let them get to you.
Once you have the answers to these questions, you’ll find it’s easy to get your thoughts back on track. Worry becomes a thing of the past when we’re mindful of it, and don’t let it become obsessive. Imagine the difference a life without so much worry will make.
I used to be a worrywart – I would worry about everything! And that’s not a fun way to spend your day.
But, gradually I became increasingly aware of what this was doing to me and those around me and I began to work on changing this self-destructive habit. So if you are caught in the trap of anxiety and constantly worrying about things that you may or not be able to change, I’d love to help:) You can schedule a time for us to chat here
You can check out the video version of this blog below