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6 Steps to Improving Your Life Through Positive Self-Talk

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Negative self-talk has far-reaching consequences in your life.

We unknowingly become our own worst enemies, robbing ourselves of self-confidence and peace of mind. If left unchecked, our lack of positivity can begin to affect our health, leaving us worried and stressed, unable to relax.

Is it fixable?

This is actually less difficult than you think. It all begins with positive self-talk and the implementation of these six practical steps.

Begin by catching yourself in the act. These first three steps will put a stop to negative self-talk before it can take root:

#1 Make a note of it.

Keeping a journal is an excellent way to organise your thoughts. Before going to bed, try writing down your impressions of the day. This allows you to let go of feelings that might otherwise fester while you’re trying to sleep.

It is always a great way to develop an attitude of gratitude as you gain awareness of things you can be grateful for each day. remember what you focus on expands, so focus on the goodness in your life and you’ll create more of it.

Reading those entries again later will give you a sense of where you are. It’s possible you’ve been more negative lately than you realised.

#2 Simply say “No.”

Your job is to stop negative statements from forming in your head when you catch them. When you notice your self-talk changing to something less than positive, you must stop it immediately. If necessary, say the word “Stop” aloud.

#3 Return with a Snap Back

For years, psychologists have recommended this therapy to stop negative thoughts. You simply wrap a rubber band around your wrist (but not too tightly).

When you have a negative thought, simply snap the rubber band. You’ll eventually find yourself stopping those thoughts automatically in order to avoid the ‘punishment.’

Next, try these three steps to put positive self-talk into practise. Remember knowledge without action is just information, so now we need to put what you have learnt into action

#4 Reduce the volume.

What word(s) in the negative thought can you change to soften it? Perhaps you meant’mistaken‘ instead of’stupid.

Instead of’slow,’ consider ‘thoughtful.’

By paying attention to your words, you will naturally begin to shift your self-talk to a more positive tone.

# 5 Change sides

Make it a game. Every time you hear yourself saying something in your head, ask yourself if you can rephrase it into something positive. Decide how many of these thoughts you can alter.

As you begin to practise this, it will become easier and you actually may just even enjoy it!

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# 6 Make is a habit to question everything

Instead of listening to negative assumptions, ask questions about them.

That’s impossible,” for example, can be transformed into “How can I make that possible?”

Questions seek solutions, whereas statements are already conclusive.

You’ll discover that life looks different if you track what you do and act with intention to change the situation. You’re more at ease and can even embrace optimism.

You begin to like yourself a little more. It is here that you begin to realise the potential you have always possessed.

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5 Ways Lack Of Discipline Affects Your Life 

Discipline is the ability to make a decision and follow them through regardless of how hard it gets, without changing your mind. Discipline is an important component necessary for achieving dreams. A person without discipline is practically guaranteed to fail in life. This is particularly true for dreams and life goals that aren’t ordinary. 

An interview of the top 10 athletes in the world on why they were great all had the same answer. Discipline. We can conclude that discipline is the first step to achieving greatness. However, what happens when one lacks discipline? Here are the ways a lack of discipline can affect your life

It Keeps You From Achieving Your Goals

A lack of discipline will keep you from staying focused on your dreams. Without discipline, you wouldn’t be able to stay in control of yourself and react appropriately to life’s situations. With discipline, you’re able to stay in control and focused no matter the situation.

Additionally, a lack of discipline is an indicator of poor inner strength. You’re likely to give up once an activity becomes difficult even when said activity is necessary to achieve your goal. 

According to Psychologists, people without discipline are more comfortable with mediocre performances rather than reaching for more, and engaging in any strenuous activities that will help them grow. Growth requires work and effort. This makes laziness appealing to people who lack discipline.

It Keeps You From Making Wise Decisions

Sometimes, the right choices necessary to achieve our dream or live a healthy life aren’t always easy. From maintaining a healthy diet to exercising regularly, to working even when we do not feel like it. 

A person who lacks discipline is not able to make the right choices especially when it will inconvenience them. For example, while the benefits of regular exercise are enormous, it requires discipline to stick to it. A person who lacks discipline is more likely to skip exercising altogether simply because it’s just too hard.

Lack Of Lack Inner Strength/Character

Dr. Steve Peters in his bestseller ‘The Chimp Paradox,’ remarks that we are already who we want to be. It’s just our minds and the choices we make that are stopping us from behaving in the way we would love to behave. For example, you might desire to be a kind person but easily lose your temper. In such a situation, you do not need to try to be a kind person as you already are kind. What you need to work on is the discipline to keep your temper in check. When you are not disciplined, everyone will see you as a hateful person because of your lack of control over your temper.

It Reduces Your Chance Of Succeeding In Life

Sadly, most goals/dreams are not easily achieved. To achieve a goal, you need motivation, hard work and considerable effort. These things cannot be done easily and require discipline to accomplish. 

When you lack discipline, you are less likely to put in the effort required to achieve your dreams. A person who lacks discipline will always shy away from tough challenges.

When you do not meet the needed requirements, you’ll remain stagnant and the quality of your life will not improve.

Nothing worthwhile is achieved easily. You will have to face challenges and overcome various obstacles. The difference between success and failure is our ability to persist and persevere when faced with difficult situations.

You Will Have Poor Relationships

When you lack discipline, it is difficult to build strong relationships. The characteristics highly regarded in a relationship such as honesty, integrity, dependability, and loyalty require a strong mental character. A strong mental character is only developed through discipline. The chances of you exhibiting these characteristics when you lack discipline are low.

Final Thoughts

Self-discipline is supposed to be taught to us and instilled in childhood by our caregivers. Unfortunately, this is not always the case, but that does not mean we are doomed forever. You can teach yourself self-discipline as an adult. This is a major element of personal development and personal growth, since when we develop our self-discipline, it has a very positive effect on all areas of our selves and our lives. 


5 Steps to Shift Your Limiting Beliefs for Good

How are you your own worst enemy?

We limit ourselves so much. We live in our heads and come up with all these ways to keep us from getting anything accomplished. Even though deep down we know we’re good enough, and how much we’re fully capable of getting things done. 

The only way to get past these self-sabotaging behaviors is to take active, intentional steps to remedy your thinking.

Let’s take a look at 5 steps that will help you overcome your limiting beliefs.

# Stop

Wait a minute; what were you thinking? If you have an uneasy feeling about something, it’s time to pause and reconsider. Is this perhaps a self-limiting belief? 

# Think About What You’re Saying

Where is the lie in this thought? You’ve already determined that something is wrong, or you wouldn’t be attempting to remedy your thinking. This means that something about it does not ring true. It is easier to know how to overcome a lie when you know where it is.

# Look for the Evidence

Is there any evidence that this self-limiting thought is correct? Let’s look at the part you believe is a lie. This is where you should take a step back from the situation if possible and look at what’s going on objectively. Is there any truth to what you’re thinking?

# Take Control

If what you were thinking was a lie, it’s relatively simple to replace the false parts of the statement with the truth. However, what if there is a degree of truth to this thought? You start by reminding yourself this isn’t always the case.

For example, you may believe that you are always late. Maybe you are, in fact, late sometimes. To complete this step, you must recall several instances when you were on time. By refuting the lie, you are regaining control of the situation and not allowing the limiting belief to control you.

# Get Help

It can be difficult to remove limiting beliefs by yourself at times.

In these situations, talking to a friend or even a coach can help you see the truth. There’s nothing wrong with seeking assistance, especially from someone who can be objective.

Self-limiting beliefs don’t have to control your life. Examining your thoughts, particularly those that appear to be holding you back, will make it much easier to move forwards towards your goals. Soon you will realize success.

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