Category: Self Esteem/Self Confidence

Mindset/Strenghts Self Esteem/Self Confidence

6 Signs That You Are A Chronic Procrastinator

Post author By Ally
Post date July 10, 2020
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Let he who is blameless cast the first stone… deafening silence.

We are all guilty of procrastinating but to varying degrees. Is it having such a serious impact on your life that it’s starting to affect your happiness and ability to succeed? There are signs that may indicate your procrastination problem is a chronic one.

Do any of these signs sound like you?

# Difficulty Coping When Faced With Change

Do you feel aimless and anxious when a project comes to an end? Do you find it difficult to get into another project? Do you find that days, perhaps weeks, will pass before you can motivate yourself to dive in? This isn’t just detrimental to the optimal efficiency of a business, it can also be harmful when you face your home life this way.

# You Feel Overwhelmed

When you face a new project, do you feel overwhelmed by its size? Do you find it difficult to determine where to start? Do you have trouble finding the trees in the forest? If this is you then there’s a good chance that you put off starting your task because then you won’t need to worry about the stress it brings. There’s one big problem with that… your stress will just increase the longer you avoid it and the project isn’t going to go away.

# You Are Always Late

If there’s one thing, we can rely on a chronic procrastinator to do its turn up late. That’s right, they’re not known for being punctual, probably because they fail to determine how long particular tasks actually take. They tend to be late for meetings and often miss deadlines or just make it.

# Your To Do List Is Ridiculous

Do you dutifully set about crafting your to do list every morning and then tick each item off as you complete it? You seem very organized, but for some reason, your list is getting longer and fewer ticks are appearing. You may be a procrastinator, but you also may be over stuffing your list and making your life more difficult.

# Your Priorities Are All Wrong

You feel as though you’re making headway but looking back what is it that you actually managed to achieve? You’ve indulged in trivial tasks rather than focusing on items of high priority, but no one can accuse you of being lazy or wasting time. Right? It doesn’t feel like procrastination when you’re achieving something… but, it is.

# Difficulty Making Decisions

Another sign of chronic procrastination is the inability to decide on doing something, details or a projects, when to do, how to do it, or most important, if to do it. Wavering is one of the classic signs of procrastination. Perhaps getting stuck in the planning is a subconscious excuse for never starting.

How To Overcome

Here are some helpful tips to help you overcome your chronic problem.

Break Projects Down. It’s easier to handle a project if you break it down into manageable chunks. When you have specific actions to take at each step, getting started will feel less daunting. Get started with just one task and make sure it’s something that you enjoy or simple. Once you complete that you can work through the rest one stage at a time.

Peer Pressure. There’s nothing worse than public humiliation so use your peers are a way to keep you accountable to completing your goals and deadlines.

Medical Consultation. Procrastinators often struggle with what others think of them. While they are wholly competent, the pressure is too much for them to handle. If this sounds like you then it may be wise to speak to your doctor about anxiety, which could be the root of your problem. Your doctor can advise you on how best to rectify the issue.

So, are you a chronic procrastinator? If you are not sure, take the quiz from Psychology Today to find out (https://www.psychologytoday.com/tests/career/procrastination-test-abridged)

And if you need some help to overcome the procrastination that is wrecking your life, check out my affordable coaching packages . Contact me today

Tags change, chaos, decisions, overwhelm, procrastination

Mindset/Strenghts Self Esteem/Self Confidence

Are You Flourishing Or Barely Surviving?

Post author By Ally
Post date June 28, 2020
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We all want to survive, don’t we?

We all want to keep going, to continue with this wonderful experience we call life. Well, most of us do.

There are some people who haven’t yet learned how to flourish in life. I want to help those people to better understand how they can learn to flourish.

There are a few things that those people need to know about who and what they are, and what they are actually capable of achieving in life.

Maximum Success

Success is not just something that relates to your job, or your career. It actually relates to everything you do in life.
In this article, we are going to look at the nature of success in relation to your entire life. If we can learn to live a successful life, then not only will we be surviving, we will be flourishing.

Imagine living the kind of life you have always wanted, or at the very least, the kind of life where you have more freedom, where you have more choice, where you have more opportunities, where you grow, learn, and evolve.

This is what we are aiming for. This is a truly successful life.

So, how do we learn to flourish?

Here are a few things you can do to help yourself:

1. Go beyond your comfort zone

When it comes to most things that are really worth achieving in life, you are going to have to go outside of your comfort zone. Inside your comfort zone are the things you are familiar with, the things you have known and have done for the majority of your life.

If you stay inside your comfort zone, you are guaranteeing that you will live the exact same kind of life you have been living up to now.

Going beyond your comfort zone, means pushing through the experiences that make you uncomfortable, doing the things that you find challenging, and not giving up when things get tough.

2. Consider new approaches to the same situations

When you want to change things up in your life, it should go without saying that something or some things need to change. A common argument that holds people back in life, is that they think they have tried everything to improve their situation.
But there is an age old saying that comes to mind here, “Where there is a will, there is a way.” As long as you don’t give up trying, you may have to try a thousand times, in a thousand different ways, eventually you will achieve what you want to achieve.

If you think you have done everything you can, figure out a way to improve and expand on your knowledge and skill set, so that you can try again in some ways that you haven’t yet tried.

3. An open mind is a source of growth

Having an open mind in life is a lot like having a large field of nutrient rich earth; You can plant anything in it. If you keep yourself open to what happens around you, you will find that opportunities to grown and evolve come everywhere.
If you have a closed mind you are very likely to miss out on these opportunities when they arise.

Having an open mind is the key to conquering your fears and phobias, to finding new connections with people you have never met, to understanding yourself and your capabilities in all areas of your life; a closed mind is the exact opposite of this.

Open yourself up to the potential that exists around you, and you’ll find yourself flourishing in no time at all.
With this small amount of advice, I hope you have found yourself a foothold along the path to flourishing in your life. One of the most important things I can say is this, “Just don’t give up!”

No matter what, you must figure out how you can change what you want to. Giving up, is like accepting hell as heaven. If you have the strength to push on though, you will grow into the kind of person you want to be, you will flourish in life, in everything you do.

Do you have things in your life you would like to change or overcome? I would love to help! Check out my affordable coaching packages to help get you out of your moment of chaos and onto a clear path to getting things back on track to normal. Contact me today.

Self Esteem/Self Confidence

Is Lack Of Confidence A Sign Of Low Self-Esteem?

Post author By Ally
Post date June 28, 2020
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When we discuss confidence and self-esteem, we know that they both go hand-in-hand with one another and seem to be very closely related.

When you are not confident, that is in fact usually a sign that you have low self-esteem or do not believe in yourself. This may lead to you not achieving your highest potential or holding yourself back during times when it means the most.

It is important to understand the difference between confidence and self-esteem in order to use these terms to your advantage and transform your mindset as well as the way you think of yourself.

Increasing your self-confidence in order to boost your self-esteem is one of the best ways to achieve your goals and learn to love yourself. Confidence is an extremely important quality to have in any aspect of your life or any field of work that you choose.

Signs of Lack of Confidence

When people lack confidence or seem to not believe in themselves, there are many traits that are commonly seen.
For example, people are often hesitant to trust those around them and hold themselves back from going places due to social anxiety or fear. However, human interaction is extremely important for one’s satisfaction with life and overall wellbeing.

People who lack confidence do not think they are as capable as those around them and often compare themselves in order to try to become a better person. They are afraid to speak up or voice their opinion in fear that they might sound stupid or incorrect.

It is important to notice these signs about yourself if you are hesitant in social interactions or fearful during situations because there are many things you can practice within in order to improve these traits and become the best version of yourself.

Confidence vs. Self-Esteem

Self-esteem generally refers to the way we worry about what others think of us. Whether it be family, friends, or members of our community, self-esteem is about what we believe others are thinking and it can have huge impacts on self-confidence.

Self-confidence, on the other hand, refers to the way we feel about ourselves. This is due to other factors such as our own abilities, unique skills, and experiences we have gone through that dictate the way we feel about our future selves.
There is a difference between self-confidence and self-esteem, although they are often synonyms for one another.

Boosting Self Esteem

In order to boost your self-esteem, the process usually starts within by using factors that you can in fact control. This may mean redefining your values, analyzing your past or your potential fears for the future, and your unique capabilities.

Whatever it may be, there are tons of strategies you can use to learn more about your true self and boost the way you feel within.

Once you are able to adjust your self-confidence levels and connect more with your inner self, you will likely be less concerned about external factors such as the way people view you. You will no longer seek validation from anyone else and will find happiness within.

This will make you less reactive to outside circumstances and more emotionally stable. Once you focus on boosting your self-confidence and understanding yourself, your self-worth will improve which will ultimately increase your self-esteem.

When analyzing self-confidence and self-esteem and trying to figure out where your issues may be rooted, it is important to analyze whether these issues are coming from within or if you are letting your surroundings dictate your self-worth and overall wellbeing.

This will require time and being honest with yourself, but it will be worth it in nearly every part of both your personal and professional life.

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