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6 Ways to Protect Your Mental Health During a Sudden Upheaval

You thought you were doing ok. You likely were. You’d faced several challenges already, and came out on top. 
Then it happened—a sudden upheaval. In an instant, your entire world changed, and you were called upon to react to a situation which sapped your energy, drained your resources, and left you feeling as though mentally, you’d just taken a battering.

It can be difficult to bounce back from such a tough scenario. Some work may be needed in order to protect your mental health during the upheaval.

Let’s look at some ways to accomplish this.

Be Unsettled

When you’re caught in the chaos, it’s normal to feel like you don’t know which end is up. You can’t possibly know all the answers, or the next best step when you’re still coping with the realization things have gone horribly wrong. You need to give yourself a break. 

 

Get in the Moment

What’s going on right now? When upheaval strikes, it’s normal to start worrying about a lot of long-term ramifications. Yet, worry can put you into an anxiety loop very quickly. To avoid this, it is helpful to deal with what is immediately in front of you first. Try mindfulness or meditation to put yourself back in the now.

 

Slow Down

Speaking of doing what’s in front of you, sometimes it can feel very overwhelming to push yourself back into motion. Try taking things in short bursts instead. Do the next thing in front of you for five minutes. Then take a breath, collect yourself, and do it again. Soon you’ll regain your momentum.

 

Accept Your Emotions

We can be hard on ourselves when it comes to what we ‘should’ be feeling. Here’s where it’s essential to feel exactly what you’re feeling right now. There is no right or wrong here. 

 

Get Support

Don’t go it alone. Isolation leads to anxiety and depression. Reach out to your friends and family. Talk to them about how you feel. They are your tribe. They’re there for you. Allow them to help.

 

Give Yourself Time

Not everything goes according to a specific timeline. You’ll drive yourself crazy if you think there’s a specific time you need to be done grieving or being angry about something. Truly, you need to do you. Take the time you need to feel all right. 
The good news? You can and will be ok so long as you stay the course and do the work to protect yourself. But even if you find you can’t, that doesn’t mean all is lost. Sometimes we all need a little help to sort this kind of thing through. It’s ok to reach out to a friend or even a counselor to help get yourself back on track.

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8 Techniques to Come Out on Top After an Upheaval

Illness strikes. A loved one dies. The economy shifts. You lose your job.

Let’s face it, upheaval happens whether you’re ready or not. For some people, they crumble at the first hint of disaster. Others somehow manage to somehow still succeed even when things look the direst. 

Which are you? Use these eight proven techniques, and you’ll come out on top every time.

# 1 Give Yourself a Break

Why are you expecting so much of yourself right now? When in crisis, recognize you’re not going to have all the answers, at least not immediately. Take a step back and acknowledge this is hard and confusing, and cut yourself some slack. This will help you relax and start thinking. 

# 2 Anticipate Fear

Know this is scary. Upheaval is all about sudden change, and you’re going to find yourself floundering initially. Fear is reasonable in this kind of situation. It’s what you do with this fear, which is what counts in the end. Remember, anticipating doesn’t mean caving into fear, but only acknowledging it’s there.

# 3 Breathe

Now, before you do anything, take a deep breath. Let it out slow, then take another. First reactions usually aren’t the best ones. By taking time to breathe, you’re giving yourself a minute to figure out what to do, not to mention taking in a little added oxygen so you can think. 

# 4 Accept

OK, this wasn’t what you wanted. Rather than fight against the change caused by the crisis, try embracing it as an opportunity to learn from the situation and to try doing things a different way. 

# 5 Rewrite the Narrative

This continues the idea from the last point. What words are you using to talk about the crisis? Is this a ‘disaster’ or an ‘unscheduled adventure’? Look for a more positive way to redefine the situation. 

# 6 Drop the Negativity

Speaking of positive, what’s your self-talk right now? Don’t get caught up in negativity here, either. Instead of beating yourself up, praise yourself for your courage in facing the upheaval with a positive attitude.

# 7 Practice Change

Get used to the idea of doing things differently by practicing change in small and safe ways. Adjust how you do something every day, such as changing the route you drive on the way to work. This helps your brain to build flexibility and readies you for the extensive changes necessary to handle this crisis.

# 8 Know Youve Got This

Most important of all, remind yourself you’ve been through other disasters and survived. You’re going to be just fine so long as you hang in there.
Success, even in the wake of disaster, never happens by chance. It takes intentionality to come out on top. By learning these eight techniques, you’ll not only survive the upheaval, but you’ll become one of those people who thrive on adversity.

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10 Resilience Power Words

Resilience speaks to one’s ability to bounce back from difficulties and catastrophes experienced in life. Resilience is essential to navigating life because adversity and challenges are inevitable.

While there are a variety of things related to resilience, the following is a list of resilience power words. Each of these words is linked to the development of resilience, which ultimately equates to the ability to handle adversity with grace.

# Acceptance

Adversity is inevitable, so learning to accept and embrace it is essential to developing resilience and navigating challenges well. Those who are resilient accept difficulties as a part of life and spend their time and energy learning to adapt to the adversity rather than fighting it or running from it. The choice to lean into the discomfort and embrace it ultimately helps people better deal with and bounce back from the hardships they face (Waters, 2013).

 

# Adaptability

The ability to be able to adjust and shift as new circumstances and challenges arise is a key facet of resilience. Those who are resilient can develop numerous strategies from dealing with stressful situations. This flexibility in the way they think about challenges allows them to respond flexibly with regards to their emotion. Thus, they are better able to shift from one coping strategy to another depending upon what is best given the specific set of circumstances (Barker, 2016).

 

# Awareness

Awareness is also heavily tied to the development of resilience. Awareness helps individuals understand what they need, how they feel, when they need to reach out for help, and when they need to make adjustments and improvements. Being aware of what personal adjustments need to be made to one’s self or one’s situation helps individuals gain the knowledge and information needed to best approach and navigate the challenge at hand (Waters, 2013).

 

# Boundaries

Boundaries in the context of adversity relate to one’s ability to create distinction between who they are at their core and the cause of their current negative circumstances. This means being able to understand that the adversity currently being faced is temporary.
This also means refraining from allowing the negative situation or circumstance to become one’s permanent identity. Being able to set these boundaries aids in quick recovery from trials because individuals understand that their situation will eventually change for the better, and there is the understanding that their identity is not rooted in the trauma. Thus, there is an ability to approach the challenge with a more positive attitude, and less likelihood of allowing the challenge to define one’s self (Waters, 2013).

 

# Confidence

A key to learning to cope with the stresses of life is a belief in your ability to do so. Research shows that there is a link between one’s self-esteem and one’s ability to handle stress and recover from negative events. People who lack self-esteem have a tendency to approach negative events with a negative outlook, and in general, have more negative outcomes. On the other hand, those who possess high levels of confidence in themselves and their abilities, approach negative circumstances with the belief that they possess what is necessary to overcome the circumstance. Thus, their outcomes tend to be more favorable (Cherry, 2020).

#Goals

Goal setting and resilience are linked in the sense that setting goals help breakdown challenges and hardships into more manageable parts that can be tackled and conquered. Goals allow challenges to be addressed in a realistic manner while also helping people to manage their emotional response to a given situation. When a person can tackle a situation one step at a time, there is less anxiety, less stress, and more probability of a favorable outcome. This ultimately means a better ability to bounce back from adversity (Cherry, 2020).

 

# Optimism

Optimism is the ability to look at situations and circumstances and find the positives, even in the midst of what seems like endless negatives. The ability to approach hardships with this type of positive attitude is key to being able to quickly recover from the difficulties we face in life.
True optimism isn’t about ignoring the negatives, but rather paying attention to those negatives that are relevant to the problems they face and then actively choosing not to remain focused on those negative solely or long term. True optimists who are able to foster resilience learn how to balance a positive outlook with a realistic view of the world and that helps them bounce back from challenges faced (Barker, 2016).

 

# Problem-Solving

There is research that suggests people who know how to analyze and develop solutions for problems are better able to cope with challenges as compared to those who do not know how to do those things. Being faced with a challenge creates an opportunity for individuals to do the work and learning that will help them develop potential solutions for the issue at hand.
It is that regular and consistent work of engaging in exercises that build focus and encourages non-traditional thinking that better helps individuals reason to able be able to solve problems in future scenarios (Cherry, 2020).

# Purpose

Finding or creating a sense of purpose for yourself in the midst of adversity or crisis can significantly help when it comes to coping and recovery. Developing a ‘why’ becomes the motivation needed to do the work that will help you get through the crisis. It is the purpose that makes the work of fighting through the trouble worthwhile and sustains your ability to continue moving forward so you can overcome adversity (Cherry, 2020).

Having a support system in place when faced with difficulties is essential to building resilience. The emotional support offered by having additional people to help you carry the load of mental/emotional burdens can make the adversity more manageable and easier to navigate.

Additionally, others can remind you of your abilities and strengths which may help you tap into the skills and inner strength you need to persevere. The support of others can also offer practical physical support and provision of resources and information that will aid you in overcoming the challenges you face (Barker, 2016).

Resilience is linked to so many other useful traits and qualities. In fostering resilience, one is able to foster the qualities mentioned in this article, and by fostering the characteristics noted in this article resilience is subsequently strengthened.
Thus, an emphasis on continued growth in any of these areas is sure to result in improved resilience which is sure to result in a better ability to navigate through life.

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References:
Barker, E. (2016, April 26). 10 ways to boost your emotional resilience, backed by research. Time. https://time.com/4306492/boost-emotional-resilience/
Cherry, K. (2020, January). Use these 10 tips to improve your resilience. Verywell Mind. https://www.verywellmind.com/ways-to-become-more-resilient-2795063
Waters, B. (2013, May 21). 10 traits of emotionally resilient people. Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/design-your-path/201305/10-traits-emotionally-resilient-people