Category: Personal Growth

5 Ways Lack Of Discipline Affects Your Life

Post author By Ally
Post date June 30, 2022
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Discipline is the ability to make a decision and follow them through regardless of how hard it gets, without changing your mind. Discipline is an important component necessary for achieving dreams. A person without discipline is practically guaranteed to fail in life. This is particularly true for dreams and life goals that aren’t ordinary.

An interview of the top 10 athletes in the world on why they were great all had the same answer. Discipline. We can conclude that discipline is the first step to achieving greatness. However, what happens when one lacks discipline? Here are the ways a lack of discipline can affect your life

It Keeps You From Achieving Your Goals

A lack of discipline will keep you from staying focused on your dreams. Without discipline, you wouldn’t be able to stay in control of yourself and react appropriately to life’s situations. With discipline, you’re able to stay in control and focused no matter the situation.

Additionally, a lack of discipline is an indicator of poor inner strength. You’re likely to give up once an activity becomes difficult even when said activity is necessary to achieve your goal.

According to Psychologists, people without discipline are more comfortable with mediocre performances rather than reaching for more, and engaging in any strenuous activities that will help them grow. Growth requires work and effort. This makes laziness appealing to people who lack discipline.

It Keeps You From Making Wise Decisions

Sometimes, the right choices necessary to achieve our dream or live a healthy life aren’t always easy. From maintaining a healthy diet to exercising regularly, to working even when we do not feel like it.

A person who lacks discipline is not able to make the right choices especially when it will inconvenience them. For example, while the benefits of regular exercise are enormous, it requires discipline to stick to it. A person who lacks discipline is more likely to skip exercising altogether simply because it’s just too hard.

Lack Of Lack Inner Strength/Character

Dr. Steve Peters in his bestseller ‘The Chimp Paradox,’ remarks that we are already who we want to be. It’s just our minds and the choices we make that are stopping us from behaving in the way we would love to behave. For example, you might desire to be a kind person but easily lose your temper. In such a situation, you do not need to try to be a kind person as you already are kind. What you need to work on is the discipline to keep your temper in check. When you are not disciplined, everyone will see you as a hateful person because of your lack of control over your temper.

It Reduces Your Chance Of Succeeding In Life

Sadly, most goals/dreams are not easily achieved. To achieve a goal, you need motivation, hard work and considerable effort. These things cannot be done easily and require discipline to accomplish.

When you lack discipline, you are less likely to put in the effort required to achieve your dreams. A person who lacks discipline will always shy away from tough challenges.

When you do not meet the needed requirements, you’ll remain stagnant and the quality of your life will not improve.

Nothing worthwhile is achieved easily. You will have to face challenges and overcome various obstacles. The difference between success and failure is our ability to persist and persevere when faced with difficult situations.

You Will Have Poor Relationships

When you lack discipline, it is difficult to build strong relationships. The characteristics highly regarded in a relationship such as honesty, integrity, dependability, and loyalty require a strong mental character. A strong mental character is only developed through discipline. The chances of you exhibiting these characteristics when you lack discipline are low.

Final Thoughts

Self-discipline is supposed to be taught to us and instilled in childhood by our caregivers. Unfortunately, this is not always the case, but that does not mean we are doomed forever. You can teach yourself self-discipline as an adult. This is a major element of personal development and personal growth, since when we develop our self-discipline, it has a very positive effect on all areas of our selves and our lives.

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5 Things I Learned From Overcoming Conflict

Post author By Ally
Post date May 8, 2022
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Conflicts are a normal part of life and they tend to happen in virtually every setting. Oftentimes, we avoid conflicts because they make us tense and anxious.

They bring up a lot of self-doubt and discomfort, which typically results in raised voices, increased heart rate, and saying things we don’t really mean.

Even worse, it leads to feelings getting hurt and, sometimes, to relationships being destroyed. No wonder we hate conflicts!

That’s why learning how to resolve conflicts peacefully can be life-changing. In fact, the more we expose ourselves to conflicts, the better we handle any situation, which helps us become more resilient.

So, to help you address conflicts the right way, here are five things I learned from overcoming conflict.

1. Teaches Us to Respect Other Viewpoints

The reason there’s a conflict in the first person is that there are two opposing viewpoints. But most times neither side gets heard properly, which leads to an altercation, even escalating to major problems.

This is why negotiations are so important, even if you’re confronting a loved one. It shows that we’re willing to be flexible and more open to accept the other person’s opinions.

Of course, that certainly does not mean that you must agree with them. It just means you have to be willing to learn how to be prepared to accept them and move on.

2. Gives Us a Chance to Verbalize Our Needs

People often take for granted who we are as individuals, even those closest to us. This stems from our lack of verbalizing what it is we want or need.

So, we carry grudges and bottle everything inside until we can’t take it anymore. That’s when conflicts arise.

The best thing you can do for yourself is to look at conflicts as an opportunity. It gives you the chance to voice your opinions and share your feelings. As a result, you become less fearful of asking for what you need.

3. Improves Our Communication Skills

Being a good communicator requires patience and self-control. As with most things in life, the more you practice good communication skills, the better you become.

And the best way to practice is through confrontations, no matter how hard they may seem. Yet, you have to look beyond the fear and be willing to share our thoughts and feelings in a calm, collected way.

You’ll quickly realize that the right words just flow out. So, when the need arises, you can prepare for what lies ahead.

4. Makes Us Better Listeners

The key to overcoming conflicts is to be a better listener. Many times we’re so focused on what we’re going to say next that we don’t really pay attention to what the other person is saying.

That’s not the way to successfully win an argument or resolve a conflict.

To do that, you have to learn how to do things. First, you have to control your impulse to react and blurt out things haphazardly.

The second thing is to learn how to actively listen when someone talks to you. It’s through listening that you can gain a better understanding of the speaker, which enables you to make smarter, wiser choices.

5. Opens Our Eyes to New Ideas

One of the ways conflicts can be a useful tool is by allowing you to fine-tune your opinions and ideas. As different thoughts are expressed, how you look at things changes slightly.

When you hear someone talking about their viewpoint with regards to a certain topic, you can’t help but clarify your own. You either start modifying your opinion, or you become even more convinced of yours.

A third option is to take part of your ideas and part of theirs and come up with a whole new concept!

That’s the beauty of conflicts. They allow you to generate new ideas and mold new perspectives.

Then, when you realize there are more similarities than differences, you forge a bond. This bond leads the way to establishing trust and enhancing networking. Case in point, it just makes both sides better human beings.

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5 Tips To Stop Avoiding Your Problems

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Post date March 24, 2022
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According to VeryWellMind,”Procrastination, passive-aggressiveness, and rumination are examples of unhelpful coping mechanisms that we may consciously or unconsciously use to avoid tackling a tough issue or facing thoughts and feelings that are uncomfortable.”

The world is a difficult place. Things are moving quicker than ever before, and issues appear to erupt from nowhere. Each day, we fight a plethora of conflicts, and it’s all too easy to become exhausted.

The turmoil might drive a person to flee from the troubles they are experiencing. Regrettably, if you strive to do this all the time, you’ll spend your whole life running and hiding from your problems.

They will ultimately sneak up to you. So, how can we successfully tackle our issues and move toward a future where we are no longer afraid of them? Here are some ideas to help you quit running away from your troubles.

Divide Your Problems Into Tiny Steps

Greenberg, author of the book The Stress-Proof Brain, advises working through the easiest phases first after splitting the problem into manageable sections.

She gives the following example when you are putting off looking for a new job. You divide this large process into “updating your résumé, finding and contacting references, studying the positions you desire, speaking with individuals you know who work in the field, and so on.”

Make Use Of Your Support System

Our support network is an underappreciated asset. Do you feel alone? Do you feel overwhelmed by your problems and cannot find an anchor? Do you get the impression that no one cares about you and that no one is eager to assist you?

If you do, you should have a look around. I am confident that there is someone who would be delighted to assist you in overcoming this obstacle. Remember that we encounter a slew of issues on a daily basis. There is no need for you to believe that you must solve all of them on your own. This might lead to feelings of stress, which can contribute to you fleeing from your problems.

If your support system is lacking then get to work! Reach out and create one that works for you.

Make A Plan

According to Lifehack, “If you’re asking yourself how to stop running away from problems, one thing to think about is whether or not you have a plan. Have you thought about how you’ll tackle the issue? Often, we run from our problems because we don’t know how to solve them. However, just because we don’t know how to confront the issue right now and it seems overwhelming, doesn’t mean that we can’t spend some time to process it and come up with a solution. Taking some time to learn about the problem and how others have overcome it in the past is a great way to start. Wherever you go for information, make sure that your sources are accurate.”

Make Yourself Accountable

For example, if you’re attempting to better manage your spending and food intake, you should keep track of how much you eat you’re spending and what you’re spending it on.

Ask others to help you be accountable. Share your goals with others and the steps you are taking to work through your problems. Ask these people to keep an eye out and ask you about your progress. And make sure that you update them about your progress on your own.

Running Away Is Not A Viable Long-Term Solution

This is most likely the most crucial aspect of learning how to quit running away from issues. It’s admitting that fleeing isn’t a long-term option. And no matter what time or far you flee, you can never really run from your problems.

Running away from problems is a common way for us to try to avoid them; it’s a protective strategy. Running, however, does not completely shield us from anything. Avoidance solves none of our problems. It has never done so in the past, and it will never do so in the future.

Facing our problems is the only way to solve them. This may take time, courage, effort and commitment, but in the end, they are solved and no longer a burden on your emotional and mental health. And, as an added super bonus, overcoming those problems helps you to build inner strength and resilience.

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