How To Tap Into Your Own Strengths To Succeed In Life

You have heard the term personal strengths, you even know that you probably have them, but you aren’t quite sure what they are or how to use them.

Being able to tap into these strengths and use them provides you with self-confidence and boosts your happiness and resilience in handling difficult situations. 

Have you ever felt like you just don’t have what it takes to get to where you want to be? It might be because you aren’t effectively relying on your strengths. You can start reaping the benefits of your personal strengths now, and here is how to do it.

The Past

While it isn’t generally healthy to dwell in the past, you may need to cast your mind back to your greatest moments in life. To the times when you were on top of everything and felt in complete and utter control of your destiny. You need a reminder of how you harnessed your strengths in the past, especially when you don’t feel it. 
Don’t focus on negative situations in your past, only draw motivation from your triumphs of strength, and utilize them now to remind you of what you are capable of. 


Stop The Comparisons 

There are few things in life more destructive to self-confidence than constantly comparing yourself to others. How can you call yourself tough when someone else is even tougher?
Why should you be happy when there are others unhappier than you?
What makes you worthy of success when there are people just as good, if not better, as you?
This is only going to drain your energy and move your focus from your strengths. When you start comparing yourself to other people, you start to feel insecure and focus on your weaknesses.
Forget the things that you’re not good at and put your focus on the things you are good at and getting better at those. 
It doesn’t matter if Lisa from accounting handled a particular situation better than you that one time or if Bob from HR raised his eyebrow at something, you said. There are always going to be areas where you don’t know as much as someone else or skills that you haven’t mastered.
Guess what?
That means that there are plenty of strengths you have that others just don’t, so keep your focus on those. 


Be Positive

Everyone has traits that they would like to get rid of or change, whether it’s a lack of patience or a tendency to procrastinate. Don’t focus on those aspects of your character; rather focus on the positive traits you possess.
It is in those traits that your strengths lie and you should use that to your advantage. Maybe people turn to you in times of trouble because you have a great attitude or you’re helpful, lean into those strengths. 
When you feel at a low point, remind yourself of the strengths you have and how you use them on a daily basis. If you find yourself self-questioning often make a note of every time you use your strength so you can reflect on the successes you’ve experienced. 


Be Strong

Do you know what happens when you offer excuses for yourself?
You make them.
When there’s an out, you find yourself taking it every time. You don’t want to live life as a victim and make excuses for shortcomings.
Why would you when you can harness your strengths and utilize them on a daily basis? Don’t give yourself an out, your only option is to succeed and to do so you must use your strengths. 
Do you know what your strengths are? If not you can take a helpful test to determine where they lie ( 

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4 Ways You Make Your Life Harder Than It Has To Be

Life can be hard. Each day has a million things to take care of and it’s easy to fall behind. However, sometimes life is hard because we are making it that way ourselves. We humans are funny creatures. 

When things are hard, sometimes we make them harder just to feel like we have some control. If you think you’re making your life harder than it has to be, read on for 4 ways you might be doing so.


You Ascribe Malicious Intent

Most of the time people don’t mean to inconvenience you or make your life harder. The person who cut you off in traffic was in a hurry. Your significant other didn’t talk to you as much this morning because they were tired, not because of anything you did.

If we decide the world is out to get us, we make life harder than it has to be. Be very slow to ascribe malicious intent. It usually just makes you angry and unpleasant. The truth behind someone’s intentions is usually far from malicious and often not personal at all.

You Maintain Unreasonable Expectations

When I hear somebody say ‘Life is hard’, I am always tempted to ask ‘Compared to what?‘” Sydney J. Harris.

It is often the case that the one thing we can control about life is our expectations. That doesn’t mean that we should go through life expecting and getting nothing. It means we don’t necessarily expect the glass to be half full, half empty, or even a little full. Expect the glass to be empty and then be grateful when it has some wine!

It is too often that we expect from the world rather than practice gratefulness for what we have.

You Are Afraid of Risks

As humans we avoid risks by nature. We don’t want to run into danger unless we know we can get out of it. However, our bubble of comfort can often become a prison. We need to risk social rejection, loss of money, and loss of time in order to make our lives better. When we spend most of our time avoiding risks, we make life harder than it has to be.

Of course, you shouldn’t go out there and run into traffic. Take smart risks! Think of an area in your life you’d like to expand upon and set some short terms goals. Once you’ve challenged yourself and become comfortable again, set some higher goals!

You Compare Yourself to Others

One of the most toxic things about modern social media is that it allows us to constantly compare ourselves to others. Even worse, we compare ourselves to others in only their best moments. It’s easy for some to make their life look glamorous on Instagram because people don’t see what happens when the camera turns off.

You can take solace in the fact that your friends probably don’t have it as good as they’d like you to think. However, there will always be someone with more money, more friends, or whatever else than you. Their life should not concern you! The only person you should compare yourself to is the version of you from the past. Look how far you’ve come!

In short, we need to worry less about others, less about risks, and maintain our expectations. If we go through life trying to be other people, thinking the world is out to get us, afraid to take a chance, and expecting things to get better without changing our actions… we are setting ourselves up for failure.

So, stop making life harder than it needs to be!


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