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7 Things People Who Believe in Themselves Do Differently

What is about people who believe in themselves? We see it in the way they carry themselves, in the way they converse with others, and in the things they accomplish. Self-belief in action is an amazing thing to see, and something everyone should aspire to.

At the same time, we very quickly become intimidated by this kind of change. It seems like it would be hard to change how you think and feel about yourself. We tend to stall out before we begin because it seems like only ‘special’ people are going to get ‘there.’ 

But is that true? A closer examination shows us otherwise. In fact, you’ll find people who believe in themselves have a lot of traits in common. Let’s look at some of those now.

They Know Where to Find Happiness

…and it’s not where you’ve been looking. People with self-belief know true happiness is something that comes from inside, not from how many toys you have or how many digits you have in your checking account.

They’re Really Not Interested in What Everyone Else is Doing

With no judgment and even less interest in comparing themselves to others, people who believe in themselves tend to focus more on what they’re doing. The competition simply doesn’t matter.

They Pick their Battles

When you lack self-belief, you tend to say ‘yes’ to everything. The problem? If you don’t value your time, no one else will either. Learning which things to say ‘yes’ to and more importantly, how to say ‘no,’ shows the world around them their time is worth fighting for.

They Know When to Speak Confidently

There’s no waffling or room for wishy-washy statements in the world of self-belief. Your ‘yes’ means ‘yes.’ You use a phrase like, “I know…” or “I can…” without second-guessing or wondering if they really can follow through with what they’re saying.

They Look for the Challenge

There’s nothing like a little healthy competition with yourself. Self-belief means you know the value of pushing to get to the next level. To a person with this kind of self-belief, life becomes almost like a game to move up by facing a challenge straight-on.

They Know How to Fail

The person with self-belief isn’t afraid to try, which sometimes means not accomplishing what they set out to do. When that happens, they take the lesson learned without making excuses or worrying about how it looks. 

They Don’t Need the Spotlight

When you believe in yourself, you don’t need accolades and are quick to point out the accomplishments of others. Most people with strong self-belief are modest. They know their value; they don’t need someone else to underscore it for them.

The amazing thing about all of these traits is just how easy they are to develop in yourself. By taking the time to build habits of self-belief, you’ll be amazed at how quickly you become one of those fantastic people who really believe in themselves. 

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Personal Growth Resilience

5 Steps For Handling Constructive Criticism

Wise people have learned how to handle criticism. They view and handle it like any other feedback, with a calm and judicious attitude. They try and see how they can use it to get ahead and meet their goals.

Many people, however; find it hard not to react defensively or angrily. There is a tendency in human nature to launch a counterattack so as to shift the blame to the critic. Unfortunately that behaviour often inflames the situation, and it certainly does not help you get ahead or win you any friends.

Criticism is a fact of life, and the sooner you learn to handle it positively, the better you can use that feedback for your own success. 

#1 Before you React – Stop!

You will feel the reaction in your body before you can get the words out. And that is where you must stop. Don’t do anything, just breathe…. and take a moment to calm your defences. It’s more than likely the other person won’t even notice, and it will give you time to compose yourself.

#2 Remind Yourself that This is Feedback

Your composure time gives you a chance to remember that this criticism is an opportunity to learn something, possibly something valuable. Say to yourself, “This is not personal,” and repeat it as often as you need to until your initial reaction has passed. 

#3 Practice Your Active Listening

Feedback time is a time to listen, it is not a time to talk. Try to understand what the other person is saying. Maybe it’s an aspect of your project or goal that you haven’t thought of yet. What initially feels like criticism may offer valuable insight. 

Repeat back what you heard and seek clarification if you need to. This is not a time to analyze or push back, it’s a time to understand precisely what is being said. 

#4 Thank Your Critic

Even if it makes you cringe inside, say thank you for the feedback. You don’t have to agree with what they’ve said to be sincerely appreciative of the input. And remember, they took the time and made the effort to give you some advice that they thought my help you in the future.

#5 Process the Feedback

You may need some time to do this, or you might be able to do it on the spot. If your emotions are running high, it’s probably better to take a break and come back to deal with what has been said. Otherwise, it’s fine to ask questions to clarify the feedback, and maybe seek their suggestions on how to move forward. 

Learning to handle and cope with constructive feedback and criticism is a really important skill, and once you learn it you will view feedback in an entirely manner. You’ll be glad you learned it sooner rather than later. 

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Mindset/Strenghts Resilience

Overwhelm And A Hectic Life Are Key Sources Of Stress For Many

We all have our fair share of stresses in life, but some of them are within our control to change. Being overwhelmed and living an overly hectic life are known to be two of the key stresses for most people, and, what luck, they’re both in your control!

In this article, we’re going to discuss how these two things are skyrocketing your stress level and what you can do about it.

What being overwhelmed and living a hectic life are doing to you

Living a hectic life that causes you to be overwhelmed regularly forces you to stay in a constant state of stress. You just go and go with little to no break. This is not good for the human body.

You need to take a break, allowing you to calm your mind and body, starting anew with fresh energy. Keeping yourself in a constant state of busy is horrendous for your stress level, which, in turn, is bad for your health.

If your life seems too hectic, it’s time you do something about it and start delegating. This will help you to reduce your stress and feel less overwhelmed.

What to do about it

While there are some hectic and overwhelming things that are out of your control, there are a few things you can do to help calm things down and reduce your stress. 

First, get your priorities in order. Make a list of everything you have to do in descending order of importance. When you’re done, see what you can cut out or maybe delegate to someone else.

Next, get better organized. Organization can greatly reduce your stress. Keep a well-detailed calendar; divide your day up into what you have to do and the time you’ve allotted in which to get it done. This will help you to feel less overwhelmed.

Lastly, ask for help. You’d be amazed how much your loved ones want to help you; it’s far time you let them. Start delegating tasks and try to make your life less hectic.

Delegating can help make all the difference

It can be hard to let certain things go, but sometimes, when it comes to your health, you just have to. Delegating can help you minimize the hectic areas of your life, helping you to have reduced stress and preventing you from feeling so overwhelmed.

Delegating means allowing others to do some of the work for you so you have time to do other important things. To help with your stress, you can delegate chores to others in your household, have someone else drive your kids to their extracurriculars, or even just let someone else handle some of the responsibilities in your life so you can take that weight off your shoulders.

Why you should bother

The biggest reason you should bother trying to minimize your stress is because stress kills. Stress can cause heart attacks, strokes, and several other bad conditions. 

Minimizing your stress can help you think clearer, sleep better, and be healthier. It can help lessen your anxiety, as well. So why, given an easy way to lessen your stress, would you not try it? It could mean a life and death difference for you.

We all deal with stress each and every day of our lives, but that stress builds up and could cause some serious health problems. Being overwhelmed and living a hectic life are two of the biggest stresses in a lot of people’s lives. They can be managed, however, with some practice. 

We hope this article has managed to help guide you through reducing your stress by delegating in order to live a less hectic life and be less overwhelmed.

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