Category: Fresh Start

7 Steps to Your Personal Plan for Flipping the Switch

Post author By Ally
Post date April 27, 2021
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Flipping your switch can seem like a massive undertaking. One that there are a million different ways to achieve if all the articles on the internet have anything to say about it.

However, flipping your switch is a personal undertaking, one that may have similar milestones for everyone, but really can and should be curtailed to a person’s needs in order to be successful. Keep reading for the 7 steps you need to personalize to flip your own switch.

Find an Activity that Challenges You

The activity that will most help you flip your own switch is the one that challenges you. Not your neighbor or your sibling. But you. This could be as simple as folding an entire basket of laundry in one sitting or the Sunday morning crossword in pen!

Commit to yourself

Whatever challenge you’re undertaking, you’re doing it for you. Make a promise to yourself that you will try your hardest and not give up when the going gets tough.

Set Realistic Goals

Make sure your goals are attainable. You aren’t going to fold all the laundry that you do on Sunday by the end of Sunday. But maybe you could at least hang up the stuff that will wrinkle. Or perhaps you will only use a pen on the crossword answers you feel 100% certain about, pencil on the rest.

Turn off the T.V. (or the Internet) In General

Get rid of the useless distractions. That show is not going to help you concentrate or make time go faster, so just don’t. You can’t flip your switch on one activity if your brain is partially paying attention to another.

Remove Interruptions

Kids, phones, whatever. Do your best to remove the interruptions that you know will crop up.

Track Your Progress

Find an easy way (read: not time-consuming, expensive, or labor-intensive) to track your progress. Sometimes this is a calendar to check off days. For others, maybe you need to journal about your feelings, how it went, or your next goal to achieve.

Enjoy Your Experiences

Enjoy what you’re doing and the experiences you are having. Remember, it’s the journey that is important, not the destination. fresh start

Learning to flip your switch is a process, not a one-day training online. It will take time and practice to find out exactly what it takes for you to be in the zone.

Tags flip the switch, fresh start, journey

Anxiety/Stress Fresh Start Mindset/Strenghts Personal Growth

Will Life Ever Return To The “Normal” We All Knew Before Covid?

Post author By Ally
Post date February 10, 2021
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Covid-19 has been a test for all of us like no other. Never before have the lives of so many people globally been disrupted and affected in such a way as they have been this past year.

So much has changed, and it is impossible to look forward with absolute certainty as to how this will all play out in the months and years ahead.

So your life has likely changed dramatically, and perhaps it is continuing to challenge and unsettle you.

Sometimes circumstances and people will break you into many pieces. Thats when you need to focus on the positives, keep your mind open to love and continue to get out of bed each day and put one foot in front of the other. That way you will put the pieces of yourself back together again and rebuild your life, and often times come back much stronger, more resilient and happier than you ever were before. Your attitude may well change and you will have different priorities.

I have found this to be true in my own life when life dealt me some nasty blows that knocked me down. But it was the brokenness which then forced me to start over, rise again and become a much happier and stronger version of myself.

Everything is changing, nothing is certain. We hold on to hope while at the same time we continue to experience loss, transition and more adversity.

But today, I want to remind you that you will be OK, even if you don’t feel OK right now.

Everything in this life is temporary – nothing lasts forever. But every moment gives us a new beginning. One moment ends and a new one begins – we literally get a new start…or a second chance every second!

Isn’t that just so amazing!!

Right now, as I write these words, the rain is pelting down outside. But one thing I know for sure is that it will stop raining.

The sun is not currently shining…but I know with certainty that it will shine again!

If I throw a ball in the air, I know it will come down again, because everything that goes up comes down again.

The darkness of night always gives way to daylight in the morning, we experience this every single day……but somehow we seem to get caught up in life and we don’t see it.

So take a moment right now….and let yourself see the truth. The truth that you will be OK. You’ve already survived 100% of your worst days, so whatever you are experiencing right now will also pass.

You may be a product of your past but you certainly don’t have to be a prisoner of it. You do not have to let it continue to control or torment you. You become a prisoner of your past when you continue to cling to the past – to what no longer exists.

Therefore, if you can find the strength and are brave enough to let go and say goodbye to the past, life will reward with with a new and often different (and better) hello.

It may be very difficult, but you ARE ABLE to let go, you must let go….

Let go and accept the feeling of not knowing where the future is leading you, or where you’re going next…..and practice leaning into this, learning to love and appreciate this freedom. Because, just like a little bird leaving the nest, it is only when you have no destination in sight and you are suspended in the air, that you will force your wings to fully open so you can take flight and soar. You may still not know your destination…and thats okay because that’s not what is important.

What is important is that you have opened your wing’s and begun to fly, and you know that as long as your wings remain open, the winds of life will carry you forward through your difficulty to your destination.

It has been said that the best lessons in life often come from the hardest of days. Often it is the low points in life that teach you the lesson you needed to learn that you couldn’t have learned any other way.

So stay strong and always remember – the sun will shine again!

Making a perspective shift like this – thinking better is sometimes easier said than done. It takes practice, determination and consistent effort and it helps to have someone to support you and keep you accountable when you want to give up.

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Tags adversity, certainty, covid 19, happier, stress, stronger

Fresh Start Mindset/Strenghts Personal Growth Resilience Self Esteem/Self Confidence

7 Things People Who Believe in Themselves Do Differently

Post author By Ally
Post date February 1, 2021
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What is about people who believe in themselves? We see it in the way they carry themselves, in the way they converse with others, and in the things they accomplish. Self-belief in action is an amazing thing to see, and something everyone should aspire to.

At the same time, we very quickly become intimidated by this kind of change. It seems like it would be hard to change how you think and feel about yourself. We tend to stall out before we begin because it seems like only ‘special’ people are going to get ‘there.’

But is that true? A closer examination shows us otherwise. In fact, you’ll find people who believe in themselves have a lot of traits in common. Let’s look at some of those now.

They Know Where to Find Happiness

…and it’s not where you’ve been looking. People with self-belief know true happiness is something that comes from inside, not from how many toys you have or how many digits you have in your checking account.

They’re Really Not Interested in What Everyone Else is Doing

With no judgment and even less interest in comparing themselves to others, people who believe in themselves tend to focus more on what they’re doing. The competition simply doesn’t matter.

They Pick their Battles

When you lack self-belief, you tend to say ‘yes’ to everything. The problem? If you don’t value your time, no one else will either. Learning which things to say ‘yes’ to and more importantly, how to say ‘no,’ shows the world around them their time is worth fighting for.

They Know When to Speak Confidently

There’s no waffling or room for wishy-washy statements in the world of self-belief. Your ‘yes’ means ‘yes.’ You use a phrase like, “I know…” or “I can…” without second-guessing or wondering if they really can follow through with what they’re saying.

They Look for the Challenge

There’s nothing like a little healthy competition with yourself. Self-belief means you know the value of pushing to get to the next level. To a person with this kind of self-belief, life becomes almost like a game to move up by facing a challenge straight-on.

They Know How to Fail

The person with self-belief isn’t afraid to try, which sometimes means not accomplishing what they set out to do. When that happens, they take the lesson learned without making excuses or worrying about how it looks.

They Don’t Need the Spotlight

When you believe in yourself, you don’t need accolades and are quick to point out the accomplishments of others. Most people with strong self-belief are modest. They know their value; they don’t need someone else to underscore it for them.

The amazing thing about all of these traits is just how easy they are to develop in yourself. By taking the time to build habits of self-belief, you’ll be amazed at how quickly you become one of those fantastic people who really believe in themselves.

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