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Will Life Ever Return To The “Normal” We All Knew Before Covid?

Covid-19 has been a test for all of us like no other. Never before have the lives of so many people globally been disrupted and affected in such a way as they have been this past year.

So much has changed, and it is impossible to look forward with absolute certainty as to how this will all play out in the months and years ahead.

So your life has likely changed dramatically, and perhaps it is continuing to challenge and unsettle you.

Sometimes circumstances and people will break you into many pieces. Thats when you need to focus on the positives, keep your mind open to love and continue to get out of bed each day and put one foot in front of the other. That way you will put the pieces of yourself back together again and rebuild your life, and often times come back much stronger, more resilient and happier than you ever were before. Your attitude may well change and you will have different priorities.

I have found this to be true in my own life when life dealt me some nasty blows that knocked me down. But it was the brokenness which then forced me to start over, rise again and become a much happier and stronger version of myself.

Everything is changing, nothing is certain. We hold on to hope while at the same time we continue to experience loss, transition and more adversity.

But today, I want to remind you that you will be OK, even if you don’t feel OK right now.

Everything in this life is temporary – nothing lasts forever. But every moment gives us a new beginning. One moment ends and a new one begins – we literally get a new start…or a second chance every second!

Isn’t that just so amazing!!

Right now, as I write these words, the rain is pelting down outside. But one thing I know for sure is that it will stop raining.

The sun is not currently shining…but I know with certainty that it will shine again!

If I throw a ball in the air, I know it will come down again, because everything that goes up comes down again.

The darkness of night always gives way to daylight in the morning, we experience this every single day……but somehow we seem to get caught up in life and we don’t see it.

So take a moment right now….and let yourself see the truth. The truth that you will be OK. You’ve already survived 100% of your worst days, so whatever you are experiencing right now will also pass.

You may be a product of your past but you certainly don’t have to be a prisoner of it. You do not have to let it continue to control or torment you. You become a prisoner of your past when you continue to cling to the past – to what no longer exists.

Therefore, if you can find the strength and are brave enough to let go and say goodbye to the past, life will reward with with a new and often different (and better) hello.

It may be very difficult, but you ARE ABLE to let go, you must let go….

Let go and accept the feeling of not knowing where the future is leading you, or where you’re going next…..and practice leaning into this, learning to love and appreciate this freedom. Because, just like a little bird leaving the nest, it is only when you have no destination in sight and you are suspended in the air, that you will force your wings to fully open so you can take flight and soar. You may still not know your destination…and thats okay because that’s not what is important.

What is important is that you have opened your wing’s and begun to fly, and you know that as long as your wings remain open, the winds of life will carry you forward through your difficulty to your destination.

It has been said that the best lessons in life often come from the hardest of days. Often it is the low points in life that teach you the lesson you needed to learn that you couldn’t have learned any other way.

So stay strong and always remember – the sun will shine again! 

Making a perspective shift like this – thinking better is sometimes easier said than done. It takes practice, determination and consistent effort and it helps to have someone to support you and keep you accountable when you want to give up.

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Fresh Start Mindset/Strenghts Personal Growth Resilience Self Esteem/Self Confidence

7 Things People Who Believe in Themselves Do Differently

What is about people who believe in themselves? We see it in the way they carry themselves, in the way they converse with others, and in the things they accomplish. Self-belief in action is an amazing thing to see, and something everyone should aspire to.

At the same time, we very quickly become intimidated by this kind of change. It seems like it would be hard to change how you think and feel about yourself. We tend to stall out before we begin because it seems like only ‘special’ people are going to get ‘there.’ 

But is that true? A closer examination shows us otherwise. In fact, you’ll find people who believe in themselves have a lot of traits in common. Let’s look at some of those now.

They Know Where to Find Happiness

…and it’s not where you’ve been looking. People with self-belief know true happiness is something that comes from inside, not from how many toys you have or how many digits you have in your checking account.

They’re Really Not Interested in What Everyone Else is Doing

With no judgment and even less interest in comparing themselves to others, people who believe in themselves tend to focus more on what they’re doing. The competition simply doesn’t matter.

They Pick their Battles

When you lack self-belief, you tend to say ‘yes’ to everything. The problem? If you don’t value your time, no one else will either. Learning which things to say ‘yes’ to and more importantly, how to say ‘no,’ shows the world around them their time is worth fighting for.

They Know When to Speak Confidently

There’s no waffling or room for wishy-washy statements in the world of self-belief. Your ‘yes’ means ‘yes.’ You use a phrase like, “I know…” or “I can…” without second-guessing or wondering if they really can follow through with what they’re saying.

They Look for the Challenge

There’s nothing like a little healthy competition with yourself. Self-belief means you know the value of pushing to get to the next level. To a person with this kind of self-belief, life becomes almost like a game to move up by facing a challenge straight-on.

They Know How to Fail

The person with self-belief isn’t afraid to try, which sometimes means not accomplishing what they set out to do. When that happens, they take the lesson learned without making excuses or worrying about how it looks. 

They Don’t Need the Spotlight

When you believe in yourself, you don’t need accolades and are quick to point out the accomplishments of others. Most people with strong self-belief are modest. They know their value; they don’t need someone else to underscore it for them.

The amazing thing about all of these traits is just how easy they are to develop in yourself. By taking the time to build habits of self-belief, you’ll be amazed at how quickly you become one of those fantastic people who really believe in themselves. 

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Getting Angry Can Cost You Your Job

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Let’s face it. People are going to get under your skin at work. In most cases, you are not in charge of picking the people who you work with.

That means you will find plenty of incompatible people in the workplace. But blowing a gasket when someone makes you reach your boiling point could cost you your job.

You need to find ways to diffuse your anger. You will not only be the bigger person in doing so; you may even save your job. It will show your company that you can handle pressure as well, which is an important aspect of business.

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Your parents and teachers have all told you to count to ten whenever you are angry. This is still good advice.

Also, try to walk away from the person or people who are irritating you. You have a greater chance of not saying something you will later regret.

When you are trying to compose yourself, try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes.

Perhaps there is something you did that is making them react in a hostile manner.

Playback in your head, any interactions you had with that person and see if you did something to upset them.

Keep in mind that you don’t have to cave into people. If they are in the wrong, you’ll want to put yourself in a position of strength, but do it only when you are no longer angry.

Businesses appreciate employees who can defuse altercations.

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As a last resort, you may need to approach your manager regarding the behaviors of some of your coworkers. If so, present both sides of the situation as best you can. Your manager will see that you are not trying to manipulate him or her into only seeing your side of the story.

Managers should also keep anger in check. While it’s common for managers to lay into their employees, this behavior can backfire on them.

Good managers need to handle situations in a firm but fair manner, without losing control of their emotions. Otherwise, employees may seek alternative employment.

Upper management may start to notice managers who are overly aggressive with their employees and take disciplinary actions.

Find ways to blow off steam. People spend many hours each week working together. There are bound to be heated situations.

Keeping your composure, while not always easy, is going to go a long way in helping you from losing your job.

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